Anyway, the discussion made me start thinking about having kids all over again...not that i want a third child, but the decision making process we went through in deciding if and when to have children and how many. I waited as long as i could (or should) to have children and would have waited longer if i could have, but i decided that i should have then before i turned 40. (Incidentally, I know many women over 40 who have had healthy children.) Fortunately, we were blessed to have two healthy children: a boy and a girl.
I never assumed that i would have another child after the first one. However, after i had the first one, i realized that i wanted to have a second. A friend of mine described it to me this way. "The first baby you have for yourself and the second baby is for the first child." I totally agree with that sentiment. I can't imagine growing up without my brother and sisters -- especially my twin sister and my older brother who i am very close to. Another friend described having two children this way: "One is an heir, the second is a spare." The reality of this comment is a bit overwhelming to discuss, but you get the point.
So the interesting thing to contemplate is why have three? For moms with two boys or two girls, it is a chance to try for a girl or a boy, but of course the chances remain 50/50 so getting one more boy or girl should be equally as desirable. Certainly more children is more resources, work, and less free time, but i am reminded by what another friend of mine said: "Having children is an investment for the future." You will be glad to have them when you are older. They will be a potential source for grandchildren (god willing) and a pleasure to enjoy when they are older! I have also heard several people say that "three" is the new "two". I assume it means that more people are having three children instead of two, but i don't know many people with three+ kids.
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